Ask Alecia

By Alecia Rice Q: I’ve been accused of being “judgy” which surprises me. This brings up the question as to how we know when we’re judging someone, have attachments, or still have our own unhealed places that require further attention? ­— Judgy Judy A: Dear Judgy Judy, This is an …

By Alecia Rice Q: I’m a recently remarried, middle-aged woman. I have good communication with my husband, but I’m still shy about initiating intimacy. Do you have any tips? — Timid Desire A: Dear Timid Desire, This is something about which both men and women can feel vulnerable—regardless of age. …

By Alecia Rice Q: I attended a wedding of an acquaintance of my partner. We helped with wedding setup, donated money to defray expenses, and I even sent a message afterward thanking them for including me in their special day, with no acknowledgment. Later, a thank you card arrived, addressed …

By Alecia Rice Q: I have a long-time best friend who’s Christian, Republican, kind, good-hearted and thoughtful. We’ve shared politically differing views on gun control, immigration, healthcare, etc. Lately, these issues have us questioning each other’s morals, which is creating problems in our relationship. What can I do to resolve …

By Alecia Rice Q: I feel like a prisoner of my phone. I feel hijacked and obligated by messages that I’m not interested in replying to immediately and feel anxious pressure to respond. How do I free myself from jail? —No Cell Bars A: Dear No Cell Bars, Technology has …

By Alecia Rice Q: I feel I’ve outgrown the relationship that I’ve been in for the last 12 years, and I’m not quite sure how to go about leaving it. I’m not angry about anything, nor has my boyfriend done anything “wrong” to justify it. It’s just not fulfilling anymore. …

By Alecia Rice Q: I’m evolving out of my religion into more of a neutral spirituality, yet my husband is still content being a Christian. He’s having difficulty understanding some of my changes. How do we navigate this transition to stay together?— Questioning My Beliefs A: Dear Questioning My Beliefs, …

By Alecia Rice Q:Several months ago, my 55-year-old husband was laid off. He is struggling to find another job. It’s weighing heavily on him. I think he feels lost and a bit depressed. I’m not sure how to help him process these challenges. — Treading Unsure Waters A: Dear Treading …

By Alecia Rice Q: I’m in a women’s spiritual group where I feel constantly projected upon by another woman who acts like a victim. Her negative energy causes me to want to stay silent in the group so as not to rouse her, and it’s making me feel resentful. How …

By Alecia Rice Q: I’m emotionally sensitive and often feel overwhelmed by what I see and feel going on in the world. Everything feels so heavy, unstable, and divided. It’s getting more difficult not to give up out of discouragement and despair. Is there some way to overcome these feelings? …