By Joyce and Barry Vissell In 1960, I was 14 years old, and my mother was the first civil rights activist that I knew. She did not march in the streets; she lived her beliefs. She had blacks, Muslims, gays and other minorities over to our house for dinner almost …
Read More »One of My Greatest Vulnerabilities
By Joyce and Barry Vissell What if Joyce dies before me? This is one of my greatest vulnerabilities. Sure, I could die first. Statistically, women live longer than men; yet this is not my vulnerability. My dying first brings up other feelings, like abandoning my true love; not being there …
Read More »Don’t Cry Because It’s Over. Smile Because It Happened.
By Joyce and Barry Vissell Those nine words by the late Ted Geisel (Dr. Seuss), one of our country's favorite storytellers, contain so much wisdom. They apply to many different aspects of life, and I would like to focus on relationships. Most of us are going to have relationships end …
Read More »The Courage to Ask for Help
By Joyce and Barry Vissell I have to admit; I have a hard time asking for help. I have that "false pride" thing about being able to do it myself, that if I have to ask for help, it means I'm helpless. I’m like the two-year-old who proclaims, "I can …
Read More »The Blessing of Differences
By Joyce and Barry Vissell Our son got married a few days ago to Isaiah, the man of his dreams. In our many years of working with couples, we’ve hardly ever seen such depth of love, respect, and commitment. Whoever feels that only a man and a woman can truly …
Read More »The Cosmic Mass: Risking to Follow Inner Promptings
By Joyce and Barry Vissell “Our minds map out a neat, perfect little road for life and we hate to have it changed in any way. Yet that perfect little road may completely by-pass our goal of God-realization.” (sic) –Barry and Joyce Vissell, The Shared Heart: Relationship Initiations & Celebrations …
Read More »Angels on the Road
By Joyce and Barry Vissell Barry: If we only knew how many times we are rescued by divine intervention, we would completely trust this higher power. There would then be nothing to worry about – ever! Joyce and I had yet another powerful reminder of this truth – and divine …
Read More »“Love, Serve, and Remember”
By Joyce and Barry Vissell Last month, my husband Barry and I both turned 70. For half of our lives, we have been writing these columns once a month; 35 years of writing for magazines, and our own list. We used to mail out the columns to those on our mailing …
Read More »To Really Trust a Woman
By Joyce and Barry Vissell To really love a woman is to give her your complete trust. I love the line in Bryan Adams’s song, “Have You Ever Really Loved a Woman,” “… and when you find yourself lying helpless in her arms, you know you really love a woman.” …
Read More »Asking Our Higher Power for Help in All Situations
By Joyce and Barry Vissell The first three steps of the twelve-step program for recovery from addiction have to do with asking for help; knowing that we are powerless without help from a higher power; and trusting that this higher power can restore our lives greater than we could even …
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